Adults are powerless in the face of children’s anger. It seems to us that children should not experience such emotions, so the child will either be ashamed or punished. But parents also can be angry and can not always control their emotions. Anyway, each of us, through trial and error, finds its ways how to get rid of negative emotions. But children learn it from inner circle.
Let’s cool down
Suddenly aroused anger does not mean that a child is aggressive. After all, all our emotions are a reaction to external influences. They allow us to regulate our lives, they are signals of what is happening. Emotions can not be forbidden or canceled, they simply are as given, they help us to achieve goals, compete, protect ourselves or other people, be persevering, active, feel confidence and strength.
Specialists have noticed long ago: any attempts to suppress emotions can lead to the most unexpected and undesirable consequences.
Causes and effects
There are several sources of aggressive impulses in children: senses of fear and anxiety, prohibitions (no educational process is possible without prohibitions and rules), pursuit of interests and boundaries. A baby is born as an absolutely dependent being. His main task is to learn how to become independent. Parents are important to remember that children are not their property, and give them some freedom and independence.
Check out these 5 essential parenting tips on how to deal with anger and aggression!
Learning to do good
In all cases it is necessary that you act with sincere love and respect for a child. Do not insult, humiliate him, intimidate or apply physical punishment to him. The kid absorbs everything that you do and say, and you should provide him the right example. Quite often children show physical anger simply because they do not know that it is possible to express negative feelings in a different way.
Teach your child to express feelings in various ways: for example, you can tear paper, crumble newspapers or beat a pillow. You can also play mock battles with soft toys or to throw balls all-force into walls.
This amazing story is about a process of moving from outbursts and repression to conscious and healthy methods of expressing anger. Check it out!
After all, there is no question: to be angry or not to be angry? There is a question: how to express anger.
