Jeff Haden, one of the most influential and popular people on Linkedln and the author of almost 30 business and communication books, explained how some people can easily gain the trust of everyone and create a positive image of themselves.
Liked Video invites you to puzzle out what these nine characteristics are that make a person very charming.
They’re not afraid to lose
Charming people don’t try to win at everything. On the contrary, their aim is to give more without expecting anything in return. For them, it’s not difficult to admit their mistakes, failures, or talk about their weaknesses. And it’s something that not everyone can do.
They can openly say, “I’m jealous of you,“ or ”I can’t do this, please teach me,» because they know people appreciate honesty and real emotions.
They show they’re sincerely glad to meet you
Maintaining eye contact is really important in a conversation, and people who have charisma know this for sure. They smile when you smile. They frown or nod when you do. They don’t just try to repeat everything after you. They are focused on what you’re saying and listen to you carefully, paying attention to all your emotions and words.
Such feedback helps you find a common ground with anyone and gain the trust of your interlocutor.
They look for mutual understanding
Charming people can very easily make you talk about yourself. They don’t hesitate to ask questions and openly talk about themselves as well. These people genuinely want to know what you’re thinking, and this makes them trustworthy.
As soon as you’ve found out something about a particular person, just ask them more questions about it and tell something similar about yourself. This will show you have something in common that can become an interesting topic for conversation.
They always remember names
ays remember names and other little things very accurately. The fact that someone says your name when you have only known each other for a short while or when you have only met once makes you feel more important in the conversation.
Call the person by name, and remember the names of his friends, relatives, or a pet. This person will only think positively of you.
