Nobody ever thinks about divorce when they’re getting married, but unfortunately, many marriages do in fact end in divorce.
It’s not the end of the world when a couple breaks up, but it can be difficult on both people involved. It’s even harder to manage divorce when there are children in the picture.
Often, it’s much better for the child when parents break up, since they won’t be in the presence of an unhealthy relationship. If things end poorly between the two parents, though, the child might be put in a tough situation.
Everyone knows that coparenting can be challenging, but some parents truly stand out, like all four of Maddie’s parents — who took her to Disney World together.
Like Maddie’s parents, Hayley Booth understands the importance of coparenting. She recently posted on Facebook about her daughter’s stepmom, and her post went completely viral.
Hayley wrote about her daughter’s other parents on Facebook, and within just days the post had received a ton of attention.
To date, the post has received over 18,000 reactions and over 22,000 shares.
Hayley wrote:
Often times I have people ask me how my ex, his wife, my husband and I co-parent so flawlessly.
My answer is always the same– We just love our daughter.
Seriously, it’s just that simple.
We all love her, and nothing will ever change that.
No child deserves to be tossed around back and forth, used as a bargaining chip, or to be put in the middle of any adult drama. She didn’t choose to be born, and she certainly never chose for her parents to get divorced.
Why would we make her life any harder by making her choose which set of parents to love?
My daughter calls her bonus mommy ‘Mommy’ and you know what? That’s okay, because that’s what she is to her, she IS her mommy.
She is there for her always, she takes care of her, she plays with her, she teaches her life lessons and how she should behave, she gives her hugs and kisses goodnight, she does everything any mother would do.
But most of all she loves her like she is her own. It takes a very special woman to take a child that they didn’t give birth to under their wing and become their mother.
I see so many women say ‘I would never let my child call another woman mom or mommy, because she’s NOT her mom I AM!’
Well you know what? You’re being selfish. If you are lucky enough for your ex to have a woman who loves YOUR child or children like their own, and one who helps raise them and shape them, why would you not allow them to call a woman they love mommy? Why would you put your child in the position to feel like they have to choose who they love?
I would never tell my daughter she can’t call her bonus mommy ‘mommy’ because it would hurt her deeply. She is her mommy not only when she spends time with her dad, but all the time.
Sometimes you just have to put the petty little things aside, to raise your child to be the amazing human being they are meant to be.
Don’t tell me that peaceful coparenting isn’t possible, because it is. I know it is. Because I do it everyday.
It takes a village to raise a child, and I am beyond thankful for my village!
Are you?
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